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Okay, I am not complaining I love men, but can someone please explain to me why they can be so irratating. Okay listen< men my own age are very annoying immature and they don't know how to keep themselves together in public. Thus I went for an older man who is quite a few years my senior but all in all the match seems to work out perfectly. So tell me why are younger women more ready to settle down than younger men. I just don't understand why so many men would prefer to go out and have sdex with a different girl every night than stay home with the same one year after year. I just cannot comprehend this issue. I mean these day fenake my age are popping out kids left and right. Whe had so many new births in the year 2008 it was unreal. But explain to my why these day a man can get a woman pregnant and feel nothing, no emotional attachment to thier child or anything. Its like the kid automatically become nothing even though it was something. I just hope a lotof young men realize, you may not be on this planet long and yes it may seem like fun now but later when you are lonely it will not be fun.
I'm gonna start off by saying that all of these things are done by women, too. No matter how young they are. As for the pregnancy thing, the girl has a say in whether to have protected sex or not. I'm not saying there aren't cases where it's forced. And not all young women are willing to settle down. Women are also into one night stands. And everyone knows women can be irritating, too. It's not just a male thing.
As a guy I know why some act this way. They are babies.
The end.
Maybe the question is, why do all the girls look at the superficial things of a guy, and fall for them before they get to know what's inside? This is why girls get hurt. They have a lack of moral discernment when it comes to picking the right guy. Girls, just because he talks sweet, and knows the right things to say, doesn't mean he's gonna make a good life-long partner. Also, if he knows just what to say and do in the beginning, he's probably looking to get in your pants, then dump you when he's had his fill. Girls want a movie or fairrie tale relationship, and guys watched the same movies, and patterned the first approach just like they see it play out on the screen.
Also, most guys have no real backbone these days.
Truth be told I blame western feminism for the state of the mens' level of irresponsibility. Gloria Steinem type feminists in the '60's labeled the institution of marriage oppressive, and stated women should have the liberation of other than marriage type sexual relationships. Well, IMO once women decided that's what they wanted, the men decided they wanted that too.
I know my share of the men that sign off on any & all responsibility for children they father, and that is just plain wrong, but why do women allow themselves to procreate outside of wedlock? Like it or not most birth control methods are made for a woman's body, and women have mouths they can use to insist the man wear a condom, aka the No Glove No Love Rule. Why is this not taking place? Weren't sex ed, health ed, condom ed in the 7th grade, hygiene ed, self esteem ed, all of these ed's supposed to prevent the births of unplanned, unwanted, unaffordable infants, or at least delay those births until they were planned, wanted, affordable? Guess not...
Also, the more liberal the community, the more boys & men are taught that they are disposable, in my opinion. I just took the subway with my young daughter, and noticed a sign WE NEED A FEW GOOD MEN. In normal print "To fulfill our dreams, call such and such a cryogenic lab at ########## to inquire about sperm donation." Make fist, insert middle finger, I think it is evil to teach young boys & men they are but a drop in a bucket to fulfill the dream of a selfish woman. What ever happened to adoption to build families? My daughter cries when her father isn't around, how do you explain to a child his or her dad has an anonymous donor number and we don't even know who he is, much less where he is? Is this what girls are being taught, that boys are disposable? Not expected to be even companions, much less providers or protectors of children? These are also much more pro abortion communities than more conservative ones, and I personally believe the legalization of this act outside a mother's possible loss of life has rendered babies disposable as far as men feeling no attachment to them.
I think the act of women seeking much older men is probably as old as life itself. I've been attracted to guys almost 20 years older than myself. I personally believe as a rule boys naturally take a little longer to mature emotionally than girls, that is why men in one's own age group seem more like children than adults. The Jewish faith acknowledges this by making the age of Bar/Bat Mitzvah 13 for the "Bar" or boy half, and 12 for the "Bat" or girl half. This is the age when the two are young men and women rather than boys and girls and should know right from wrong.
I think some human beings, for whatever reason don't and never will want to get married. Some feel a particular partner may be inappropriate for them and may break up, and they know better than I why they felt that way. But I think the original poster is right in saying such individuals may be lonely later on if they see sex strictly as fun and not for commitment.
I honestly couldn't have put it better myself, Spungebob. In addition I would agree with the poster that there are a great deal of messed up man-boys out there. I myself was slightly on eof them at around twenty years old. Unfortunately it's not a sex thing, but an individual thing. There are some pretty irresponsable women out there. It's true that men and women are inately a little different. Just because we are EQUAL, deosn't mean the exact same.
Yet again, though ten to fifteen years ago I may not have agreed, and five years ago I'd have never dared say so, Spongebob again you're right on I think.
Personally, I think there's a lot of comparisons in outcomes between the leftist fundamentalist feminist types and the rightist fundamentalist types: They're all so incredibly in love with the idea of something, they lack the pragmatism to look at results and give themselves a failing grade.
Personally, were I king for a day, I'd make Vassectomys a lot more ubiquitous. Ask a bunch of young guys: If you choose to not procreate ever, aka get the irreversible kind, you get a Playstation or an XBox or something similar.
The answer to the irresponsible women is other women, IMHO, we men can't say anything to 'em.
But the last poster's right about manboys. Long before manboy was even a word, my father used to point out boys that he said 'had no father to teach him how to be a man.' This was long before literature about fathers in the home.
What he called boys without a father, we just called sissys, or girlie boys, maybe that's what they all call 'emo' now, throwing girlish-type fits.
It don't wear well ... just sayin'
For the life of me I'll never understand rightist fundamentalist feminist types. Isn't conservative feminist an oxymoron?
Example one female conservative, whose book I've read one chapter, decries in the chapter about "Rewarding Inappropriate Families Penalizing the Good" the feminist notion of rendering homemaker obsolete as a profession. Now even as a conservative I'm with them on that one. What do homemakers do when the chief breadwinner dies, or abandons ship, or simply can't provide as much or any because of severe illness, or disability, or loss of job? I suppose there's the public assistance route, but getting a housing subsidy can take a long time in a poorer area with a number of applications. Wouldn't it be easier to be a wife with at least a part time job as backup? Anyway, this same female conservative was a backer of Sarah Palin, even chastised liberal feminists for asking legitimate questions, like How would she have enough time for such a large family, including a Downs Syndrome infant, if she got this on call 24/7 job? What? Can't do both, endorse stay at home mothers and a mom with a family unfriendly career.
And as far as I'm concerned, Ms. Palin fails to look at her ideal...woman with high level job, large family, husband the more available of the two as parents...and call her ideal a failure. I have seen two examples of women with daughters who became pregnant like Bristol Palin, young, single, & unprepared. Both of these women worked two jobs while husbands stayed home or worked one, and I suspect their teenage daughters went without information they needed to avoid this predicament, and boom! Three grandmothers who will probably get saddled with the burden of some of their grandkids.
The same goes for the guys. There are just some professions that are not tailored for the needs of a family, and the boys go with absentee dads. There was a child homicide in St Petersburg, Florida, where the perpetrator was an 11 year old boy whose dad was absent largely out of town as a salesman. Suppose if he'd been around more he would have noticed some downright bizarre behavior in his son?
I think the whole idea of pushing babies on everyone, no matter how little the desire or inappropriate their situation or motivations for wanting one, has made members of both sexes more irresponsible as partners & parents. As a result everyone seems to be having babies, whether healthy, stable adults in committed partnerships & both wanting children, to the unwed & unable to afford, to adults with genetic life terminating illnesses, and it really is the children who are paying the price.
hmmmm. I was born and brought up in India. and am still in India. so literally, I was with only one for 10 years and I was married to her. even now I wish I could get married again if I find a right partner with the same thought.
As per the indian culture, you cannot sleep with a girl unless she's your wife. or a commercial girl. It's still being followed here by most of us.
I think that's the only difference with me in real life. I'm not for one night stand or short term relationships.
Footnote: not hunting.
Raaj.